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       Saturday, July 05, 2008

 

Meetings


Common Compliants About Meetings:

   Purpose is unclear.

   Key people are absent or late.

   Conversation does not stay focused / on track.

   Participants who do not discuss issues, either:

       Dominate conversation
       Argue
       Take no part at all

   Meeting outcome is predetermined, with no
      discussion or negative input allowed by
      participants. (Often called "Yes Meetings" or
      "Rubber Stamp Meetings")

   Decisions made are not followed up.

   It is estimated that upper-level managers
      spend 60 - 70% of business day in meetings.

Facilitating / Managing a Meeting

   Meeting guideline considerations:

       Establish exactly what the meeting should
          accomplish.  Do it in one or two
          sentences.

       Is holding a meeting the best and most
          efficient way to accomplish this?

       A few days in advance, send out an
          agenda to those scheduled to attend.

          Purpose:

        To maintain focus and order
        To establish ground rules
        To enable attendees to come
           prepared with necessary material /
           information.

   Start the meeting on time and end as scheduled.

   Take responsibility for the meetings progress
      and outcome.

   Keep the discussion on track.  Maintain order
      and focus.

   Facilitate conflict resolution.  Allow disagreement,
      but insure that it does not get out of control.

   If the meeting is not making progress, try other
      techniques such as brainstorming.

Four Stages of Meetings

  1. Participants feel each other out and orient themselves.

  2. Conflict erupts between members - quite often over what the group is supposed to be doing.

  3. Group agrees on certain rules or norms, to guide their deliberations.

  4. Members settle down to assigned task(s).

         There is no typical or desirable
            sequence.

         Groups will jump back and forth
            among the stages.

         An effective group may experience
            conflict and then go back  to
            orientation.

         Gauge your contribution or
            management of the meeting
            accordingly.

       Orientation Stage

         Clear up any potential "grey areas"
            about procedures or agenda.

         Take clarification questions from the
            participants.

         Do not try to deal with every detail in the
            stage.

         Beware of using forceful "must do"
            statements may prompt group to
            withdraw and not participate for
            remainder of the meeting.

       Handling Questions and Answers

         How the facilitator/meeting manager
            accepts questions and answers is an
            an important factor in motivating or
            inhibiting individual participation.

         If question or answer is repeated do not
            not pass over, ignore, or cut them off.

         Act as a prober - have the person expand
            on the statement.   New ideas may
            surface in the explanation.

       Various roles of participants

         Participants of meeting will take various
            roles.

         Pay attention to the stage the meeting is
            in and the different roles participants
            take on.

         People strive to satisfy their own
            psychological needs, whether it be
            unconscious or conscious.

         Potential roles:

          Information giver
          Information seeker
          Coordinator
          Encourager
          Follower
          Compromiser

         Pay attention to the various roles
            participants take on.

         Same person may adopt different roles
            in different groups.

         When one group meets numerous
            times, individual is likely to stay with
            role taken in first few meetings.

       Acceptance and Rejection Positioning

         A participant's positioning will signal
            acceptance and rejection of ideas.

         Anyone positioned with their back to
            speaker will probably reject speaker's
            proposals before they are even presented
            to them.

         The person sitting directly opposite the
            speaker's position is in the best position
            to recieve open, positive feelings
            depending (or closed negative feelings
            on what is being sent).

         If this person turns away and avoid eye
            contact, he/she is hesitant to accept the
            speaker's ideas.

         These messages can help facilitator /
            presentor tailor presentations and
            introduction determine the "timing" of
            the of the new ideas.

       Closing a Meeting

         Look for opportunities to summarize

         Avoid forcing revolution of issues that
            the group wants to leave ambiguous.

         Ask for volunteers to do follow-up work
            on a particular matter.

         When leaving do not mutter negative
            statements about it being time wasted.

         If you hear these compliants, take the
            person aside and in a non-threatening
            way ask for reasons and suggestions
            for improvements.

         Keep an open mind to new ideas and
            try to implement those that seem to have
            merit.

         Give the person credit for suggestion(s).

         Person will appreciate the credit and is
            likely to be a better supporter / contributor
            in the future.

         Will send message to other participants
            that ideas and suggestions are
            welcomed.

    Participating in Meetings

       Prepare before attending a meeting:

       Find out what is to be discussed
          (request an agenda).

       Review the points you want to make.

       Gather supporting data.

       If your points are likely to be contrary to other
          views, you may want to tell this person(s) in
          advance.  Let them know the issues you
          wish to raise and the reasoning to support it.

       Arrive a few minutes early.  As others arrive,
          pay attention to what is said and to such
          non-verbal behavior as seating selections.

       Using forceful statements during the meeting
          may prompt the group to freeze you out of the
          remaining porion of the meeting.

    New Member to a Group That Has Met Previously

       Ask before occupying a seat.   Members are
          likely to assigned themselves to seats around
          the table and expect to sit in that same seat
          each meeting.

       Certain seats also carry more "clout" than
          others.

         Around a rectangular table, the
            facilitator / leader almost always sits at
            the head of the table.

       Another dominant participant will assume seat
          on the opposite end / foot of the table.

       When participants randomly assume seats,
          those who sit in the end seats will end up

       acting more forcefully than usual.  Observe
          the participants body language.

         "Heavy hitters" tend to:

           Sprawl or sit in relaxed position,
           Usually shift position frequently,
           Gesture with large movements
              (moving away from body),
           Swivel in chair (if possible)
           When speaking, look directly at
              people more than other
              participants
           Avert their gaze when listening.

    Once Meeting Has Settled Down

       Groups that meet often usually settle down
          quickly.

         Listen carefully, then pick your moment
            to volunteer you point.

         Make sure that you have facts to support
            your position.  This is especially
            relevant when a point(s) are raised for
            the first time.

         If feeling less confident, wait for a
            moment when it can be introduced as a
            helpful response to a remark made by
            someone else.

         Present your idea as an outgrowth of
            the discussion.

           Make your point clearly,
           Use sentences that quickly
              summarize your facts,
           Listen carefully to remarks that
              follow; answer questions and
              defend idea without getting
              defensive.
           Do not press prematurely for
              a conslusion,
           If decision goes against you:

            Be quiet
            Let matter drop
            Do not sulk or "whine"
    Disagreeing

       Be very conscious of need for everyone to
          "save face."

       Consider:

         Going back to purpose of meeting.
            Perhaps ask a question.

         Suggesting a look at issue in a broader
            content.

         Adopting role of devil's advocate -
            raise objection in this context.

         (If in greater risk taking mood)
            Use / accept part of the viewpoint
            enthusiastically and restate the rest;
            slightly altering it to fit your own
            view.


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